Quick Answer

For most beginners, 00-30 silicone is the safer starting point because it's softer, more forgiving, and easier to insert. Choose 00-50 if you want more pressure and structure, but be ready for a firmer feel that can be more intense.

When you're new to fantasy dildos, the sheer variety of shapes, sizes, and textures can feel overwhelming. One of the most important choices you'll make is firmness. The numbers 00-30 and 00-50 refer to the Shore hardness scale, with lower numbers meaning softer silicone. Understanding this difference can help you pick a toy that feels good from the first use.

This guide breaks down what 00-30 and 00-50 actually feel like, who each is best for, and how to decide based on your experience and preferences. We'll also look at specific models from Lair of Lust to show how firmness plays out in real toys.

What Does 00-30 Firmness Feel Like?

00-30 silicone is soft and squishy. When you squeeze it, it gives easily and feels almost like a dense marshmallow. This softness makes it very forgiving for beginners because it bends and compresses during insertion, reducing the risk of discomfort or soreness.

Toys in 00-30 are also great for texture lovers. Because the silicone is soft, ridges, veins, and other details feel more like gentle stimulation rather than intense pressure. If you're not sure how much texture you can handle, 00-30 lets you explore without being overwhelmed.

  • Soft and flexible, easy to insert
  • Gentle on sensitive areas
  • Textures feel muted but still noticeable

What Does 00-50 Firmness Feel Like?

00-50 is noticeably firmer. It still has some give, but it holds its shape much better and provides more resistance. This firmness is ideal if you want a toy that maintains its curve or shape during use, or if you prefer a more substantial, filling sensation.

The trade-off is that firmer toys can be less forgiving, especially if you're new to larger sizes or intense textures. The details on a 00-50 toy are more pronounced, which can be exciting but also more intense. If you're unsure, starting with a smaller size in 00-50 can help you gauge your tolerance.

  • Holds shape and curve well
  • More pressure and fullness
  • Textures feel more pronounced

How to Choose: Decision Rules for Beginners

Start by considering your experience level. If this is your first fantasy dildo, 00-30 is generally the safer bet. It's more forgiving and lets you focus on getting comfortable with the shape and size. If you already have experience with firmer toys and know you like pressure, 00-50 might be a better match.

Next, think about how you plan to use the toy. For longer sessions or if you're using it for stretching, softer silicone is usually more comfortable. If you want a toy that stands up on its own or holds a specific angle, firmer is better. Also consider the size: a larger toy in 00-50 can be very intense, so you might want to size down if you choose firmer.

  • Beginners should start with 00-30 unless they know they prefer firm pressure.
  • If you choose 00-50, consider a smaller size to manage intensity.
  • Think about whether you want texture to be subtle or pronounced.

Decision Rules at a Glance

  • If you're a complete beginner: Choose 00-30 for a softer, more forgiving feel that's easier to insert and comfortable for longer sessions. Start with 00-30 to build confidence.
  • If you like pressure and fullness: Go with 00-50 for a firmer toy that holds its shape and provides more resistance, especially if you have some experience. 00-50 gives a more intense experience.
  • If you love texture: In 00-30, textures are softer and subtler; in 00-50, they're more pronounced. Decide how much sensation you want. Texture lovers may prefer 00-50 for more feedback.

Real Models to Consider

Which Firmness Fits You?

Best for

  • Beginners who want a comfortable, forgiving first fantasy dildo
  • Anyone who prefers gentle texture and longer sessions

Not for

  • Experienced users who seek intense pressure and pronounced texture
  • Those who want a toy that stands upright or holds a specific curve

Choosing between 00-30 and 00-50 comes down to your comfort and goals. Start soft if you're new, and don't be afraid to experiment once you know what you like. The right firmness makes all the difference in enjoying your fantasy toy.