Quick answer
Using a remote vibrating dildo with a partner is straightforward: choose a toy with a strong suction cup and multiple vibration modes, then take turns controlling the remote for shared or solo stimulation.
Why a remote vibrating dildo works for couples
A remote vibrating dildo lets one partner control the vibrations while the other focuses on positioning and sensation. This dynamic adds an element of surprise and shared decision-making, which can deepen intimacy. The transparent design of the Loving Joy 8 Inch Remote Vibrating Dildo, for example, lets you see the motor in action, adding visual excitement during play.
The main trade-off is that remote range and battery life vary, so test the remote close to the toy first to avoid interruptions. Also, the toy's firm suction cup is essential for hands-free use, but it requires a smooth, non-porous surface to stick securely.
Step-by-step guide to using a remote vibrating dildo with a partner
- 1. Prepare the toy and space: Charge the dildo fully (if rechargeable) or insert fresh batteries. Clean it with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Choose a flat, smooth surface like a headboard, wall, or shower tile for the suction cup. Test the suction by pressing the base firmly and tugging gently to ensure it holds. Skipping the suction test can lead to the toy slipping mid-play. Always check the surface is clean and dry for best grip.
- 2. Discuss roles and boundaries: Before starting, decide who will hold the remote and who will be the receiving partner. Talk about vibration intensity preferences and any discomfort signals. A simple safe word or gesture (like tapping twice) works well if one partner cannot speak easily. Without a clear agreement, one partner may feel pressured. Agreeing on a safe word beforehand ensures both feel in control.
- 3. Apply lubricant and position the dildo: Use a water-based lubricant on the dildo and the receiving partner's genitals. The receiving partner can straddle the dildo on the floor or bed, or lie on their back with the toy mounted on a wall. The remote-holding partner should have a clear view of the toy and the receiving partner's reactions. Avoid silicone-based lube with TPE toys like the Loving Joy model, as it can degrade the material. Stick to water-based for safety and easy cleanup.
- 4. Start with low vibrations and communicate: The remote-holding partner begins with the lowest vibration setting. The receiving partner gives feedback on intensity and speed. Gradually increase or change patterns based on verbal cues. The remote can be passed back and forth if both partners want to experience control. Starting too high can overwhelm the receiving partner. Always begin low and build up together.
- 5. Experiment with positions and angles: Try different angles: the receiving partner can lean forward or backward to change the dildo's depth and pressure. The remote-holding partner can adjust the toy's position by moving the suction cup mount. For example, mounting it on a shower wall allows standing play with hands-free support. A common mistake is leaving the toy in one spot. Small adjustments can target different erogenous zones and prevent numbness.
- 6. Clean up and care for the toy: After use, remove the dildo from the mount and clean it thoroughly with warm water and toy cleaner. Dry it completely before storing in a dust-free bag or container. Check the remote's battery compartment for any moisture. TPE is porous, so proper cleaning after every use prevents bacteria buildup. Never boil or soak TPE toys.
Product facts
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Loving Joy 8 Inch Remote Vibrating Dildo: The Loving Joy 8 Inch Remote Vibrating Dildo features a realistic, transparent TPE body with a firm suction cup base and ten vibration functions. The suction cup allows one partner to mount it on a wall or headboard for hands-free use, while the ten vibration modes give the remote-holding partner plenty of variety to explore together.
Loving Joy 8 Inch Remote Vibrating Dildo