Quick Answer

To use a thrusting strap on dildo with a partner, start with a strapless design if you want hands-free control, apply plenty of lube, and communicate about speed and depth as you explore different positions.

Why a Thrusting Strap On Adds a New Dimension

A thrusting strap on dildo brings automatic motion that can be a game-changer for partner play. Instead of relying solely on hip movement, the toy's internal thrusting mechanism provides consistent stimulation that can be especially helpful for longer sessions or for partners who want to focus on other sensations.

The strapless design, like the Mina Surge Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Strapless Strap On, offers a unique advantage: it eliminates the need for a harness, allowing for more intimate contact and easier positioning. However, this design requires good pelvic floor control from the wearer to keep it in place, which is a trade-off to consider.

Remote Control: Who Holds the Power?

Many thrusting strap ons come with a remote, giving you or your partner the ability to switch modes without interrupting the flow. This can be a fun way to share control or surprise each other with different intensities.

Before you start, decide who will hold the remote. Some couples enjoy the wearer controlling the action, while others prefer the receiving partner to have the power. This simple decision can enhance the experience by adding an element of anticipation and communication.

Step-by-Step Guide to Partner Play

  1. Communicate and Set the Scene: Before you begin, talk with your partner about comfort levels, boundaries, and what sensations you both want to explore. This is also the time to agree on a safe word or signal to pause or stop. A clear 'stop' signal is essential, especially when using a remote-controlled toy.
  2. Prepare the Toy and Your Bodies: Wash the toy with mild soap and warm water, then apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to both the insertable ends and your bodies. This reduces friction and makes insertion more comfortable. Reapply lube as needed; silicone-based lube can damage silicone toys.
  3. Insert the Wearer's End: For a strapless strap on, the wearer inserts the shorter bulb end into their vagina (or anus) and tightens their pelvic floor muscles to hold it in place. Use a mirror or your partner's guidance to ensure proper positioning. If it slips out, try a harness or different angle to improve grip.
  4. Start with Low Settings: Turn on the thrusting and vibration modes at the lowest intensity first. This allows both partners to adjust to the sensation before increasing the speed or power. Always start low and build up gradually to avoid overwhelming stimulation.
  5. Explore Positions That Work for You: Try positions that offer good control and comfort, such as the wearer on top (cowgirl) or side-lying positions. These allow the wearer to control depth and angle while the thrusting mechanism does the work. If a position feels awkward, adjust the angle or switch to another position rather than forcing it.
  6. Use the Remote to Switch Modes: Experiment with the remote to cycle through the different thrusting and vibrating modes. Notice what your partner responds to and adjust accordingly. You can also hand the remote to your partner for a fun power dynamic. Pay attention to body language and verbal cues to find the most pleasurable settings.
  7. Clean Up and Care: After use, turn off the toy and remove it gently. Wash it thoroughly with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner, then let it air dry before storing it in a clean, dry place. Regular cleaning prevents bacteria buildup and extends the life of your toy.

Product Spotlight

  • Mina Surge Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Strapless Strap On: The Mina Surge Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Strapless Strap On features 3 thrusting modes, 10 vibrating modes, and 3 powerful motors, all controlled via remote. This variety lets you customize stimulation to match your partner's preferences, from gentle teasing to intense thrusting, without interrupting the moment.

    Mina Surge Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Strapless Strap On

    Mina Surge Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Strapless Strap On