Quick answer

Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Formula is a lubricant made with 5% Benzocaine, a local anesthetic that temporarily numbs the applied area. Apply a small amount 5–10 minutes before penetration and test on a small skin patch first. It can help manage premature ejaculation or increase comfort during penetration, but it is not for everyone.

How Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Formula works

The active ingredient is 5% Benzocaine, a local anesthetic. When applied to the penis, it reduces nerve sensitivity in that area, which can help delay ejaculation or make penetration more comfortable. The formula is homogenized like real butter, creating a thick, creamy texture that stays in place. Unlike some desensitizing sprays that disappear quickly, this lubricant is designed to last as long as a synthetic or silicone lubricant, so you get both reduced sensation and lasting glide from one product.

How to apply desensitizing lube correctly

Start with a patch test on your inner forearm to check for irritation. If no reaction occurs within 24 hours, apply a small amount to the head and shaft of the penis, using less than you think you need. Wait 5–10 minutes for the Benzocaine to take effect. If you feel too numb, wipe some off; if not enough, add a tiny bit more. For partnered sex, apply only to the penis, not to your partner, unless a healthcare provider says otherwise. Wash hands thoroughly after application to avoid transferring the numbing effect to eyes or other sensitive areas.

What to expect during use

You will notice a gradual reduction in sensation, not a complete loss of feeling. The effect typically lasts 20–45 minutes depending on how much you apply and your individual response. Because the formula is oil-based, it does not dry out or get tacky like some water-based lubes, so you can maintain a smooth glide for longer sessions. However, it is not compatible with latex or polyisoprene condoms, as oil can weaken them. If you use condoms, choose a polyurethane or nitrile alternative. Also, the numbing effect can make it harder to judge pressure, so communicate with your partner and go slowly.

Desensitizing lube FAQ

How long does the numbing effect last?

Most people feel reduced sensation for 20–45 minutes after applying a small amount. The effect fades gradually. If you need more time, reapply a tiny amount rather than a full pump. Start with less; you can always add more.

Can I use Boy Butter Extreme with condoms?

No. The oil-based formula can weaken latex and polyisoprene condoms. Use polyurethane or nitrile condoms instead, or skip condoms if you are in a mutually monogamous relationship and have been tested. Oil and latex do not mix.

Will it completely numb me?

No. The goal is to take the edge off, not eliminate all feeling. You should still feel pressure and warmth. If you feel nothing, you applied too much—wipe some off and wait a few minutes. Less is more with Benzocaine.

Product facts

  • Lube Tube ~ Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Formula 6 oz: Boy Butter Extreme Desensitizing Formula contains 5% Benzocaine, a local anesthetic, and is homogenized like real butter. The 5% concentration is strong enough to reduce sensation but still allows you to feel pressure and movement. The thick texture means it stays where you apply it.