Quick answer

Choose a gel retardant like Take It Slow if you want to last longer during intercourse. Choose a gel excitant like Thrill Delight if you want to heighten sensitivity and arousal.

The core difference: delaying versus stimulating

Gel retardants work by slightly desensitizing the penis to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation. They are typically applied a few minutes before intercourse. Gel excitants do the opposite: they create a cooling or warming sensation that increases blood flow and nerve sensitivity, making every touch feel more intense.

Because their goals are opposite, choosing the wrong one can ruin the experience. A retardant on a partner who wants more sensation will feel numb. An excitant on someone who already struggles with control can make things worse.

Trade-offs at a glance

  • Goal: last longer: Choose a gel retardant. It reduces penile sensitivity so you can maintain an erection longer before ejaculation. Apply 5-10 minutes before intercourse for best results.
  • Goal: increase arousal: Choose a gel excitant. It creates a cooling or warming sensation that heightens nerve response and makes touch feel more intense. Blow gently on the area after application to amplify the fresh effect.
  • Shared limitation: Both gels are single-purpose. A retardant won't boost your partner's pleasure, and an excitant won't help with control. If you want both effects, consider using separate products for each person.

Products at a glance

  • Take It slow - Gel Retardant: Take It Slow is a gel retardant with a delicate Monoï scent, designed for application on the penis to prolong intimacy slowly and softly. If your goal is lasting longer without losing all sensation, the Monoï scent adds a pleasant touch while the gel works to reduce sensitivity.

    Take It slow - Gel Retardant

    Take It slow - Gel Retardant

  • Thrill Delight - Elixir de Plaisir: Thrill Delight is a gel excitant with a coconut taste and a fresh effect that intensifies when you blow on the applied area. The roll-on applicator makes it easy to target erogenous zones, and the cooling effect builds arousal gradually, perfect for foreplay.

    Thrill Delight - Elixir de Plaisir

    Thrill Delight - Elixir de Plaisir

Which one fits your needs?

Best for

  • People who want to prolong intercourse and gain better control over ejaculation
  • Couples where one partner wants to last longer without stopping

Not for

  • People who want to increase sensitivity or arousal (choose an excitant instead)
  • Anyone looking for a lubricant that does both jobs at once