Quick answer
To wear a strapless strap-on, the wearer inserts one end vaginally or anally while the receiver guides the other end, using a harness for extra security if needed. Start with plenty of lubricant and gentle positioning.
Why a harness helps even with strapless designs
While strapless strap-ons are designed to be held in place by the wearer's pelvic muscles, many people find that adding a harness (even a simple underwear-style one) prevents slipping and allows for more vigorous movement. This is especially true for beginners or when using a heavier model like the Lovense Lapis.
Lubrication is non-negotiable
Because both ends of the toy are inserted, using a high-quality water-based lubricant is essential for comfort and safety. Silicone lube can degrade silicone toys, so stick to water-based unless you know your toy is compatible.
How to insert and wear a strapless strap-on
- Prepare and lubricate: Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to both ends of the toy. The wearer should also lubricate their own vaginal or anal opening for easier insertion. Skipping lube is the most common mistake — it causes discomfort and makes insertion difficult.
- Wearer inserts their end: The wearer gently inserts the shorter, bulbous end into their vagina or anus while lying down or squatting. Use slow, steady pressure and pause if you feel resistance. The flexible neck of the Lovense Lapis helps it conform to your body's angle. If the toy keeps slipping out, consider using a harness or a pair of snug underwear to hold it in place.
- Receiver guides the other end: Once the wearer's end is secure, the receiver positions themselves (e.g., on all fours or lying on their back) and guides the longer end into their vagina or anus. The wearer can help by adjusting their hips to align the toy. Communicate throughout — the receiver should insert at their own pace to avoid discomfort.
- Adjust and enjoy: Both partners should move together to find a comfortable rhythm. The wearer can control the angle and depth by clenching their pelvic muscles. Use the Lovense Lapis app or remote to adjust vibration intensity for extra stimulation. Start with slow, shallow thrusts and increase intensity gradually. If either partner feels pain, stop and reapply lube or reposition.
Product facts
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Lovense Lapis Double-Ended Vibrating Strapless Strap-On: Lovense Lapis features a flexible neck that adjusts angles for both the wearer and receiver, with three vibration points for G-spot, P-spot, and C-spot stimulation. The flexible neck helps maintain comfort and contact during different positions, making it easier for both partners to enjoy the shared experience.
Lovense Lapis Double-Ended Vibrating Strapless Strap-On
