Quick Answer

Start with the lowest suction setting and a little water-based lube, then place the opening over your clitoris and let the toy do the work—no pressing or grinding needed.

Why Suction Feels Different from Vibration

Unlike vibrators that rely on direct contact, a clit sucker toy uses gentle air pulses to create a sucking sensation that many find more focused and intense. The Poet, for example, offers three interchangeable mouths and five pulsation modes, so you can tailor the feeling from teasing to passionate throbbing.

Because suction is a new sensation for most people, it's normal to need a few tries to find what works for you. The key is to start slow and let your body adjust before turning up the intensity.

Lube: Your Best Friend

A little water-based lubricant can make a big difference. It helps the mouth of the toy glide smoothly over your skin and enhances the suction seal, making the sensation more comfortable and pleasurable.

Avoid silicone-based lubes if your toy is made of silicone, as they can degrade the material over time. Stick to water-based formulas for safety and easy cleanup.

Step-by-Step: Using Your Clit Sucker Toy

  1. Step 1: Get Comfortable and Relaxed: Find a quiet, comfortable position—lying down often works best. Make sure you're aroused enough that your clitoris is slightly engorged, which helps create a better seal. Skip this step if you're not in the mood; it's okay to start with foreplay or a warm-up.
  2. Step 2: Apply Water-Based Lube: Add a small drop of water-based lube to your clitoris and to the opening of the toy. This prevents friction and improves the suction seal. Don't overdo it—too much lube can make the toy slip off. Start with a little and add more if needed.
  3. Step 3: Position the Toy Over Your Clitoris: Gently place the mouth of the toy over your clitoris, ensuring a complete seal. Do not press hard; let the toy sit lightly against your body. If the suction feels too strong, reposition or move the toy slightly—it shouldn't hurt.
  4. Step 4: Start on the Lowest Setting: Turn on the toy at the lowest intensity. Give yourself a minute to adjust to the sensation before increasing the mode or speed. If the lowest setting feels too intense, try moving the toy slightly off-center or using a different mouth size.
  5. Step 5: Experiment with Angles and Modes: Try different angles and pressures to find what feels best. The Poet's five pulsation modes offer variety, from gentle pulses to rhythmic throbbing—explore them all. Don't be afraid to switch mouths; the three interchangeable options are designed for different sensitivities.
  6. Step 6: Clean and Store Properly: After use, wash the toy with warm water and mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. Dry it completely and store it in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Always check the care instructions for your specific toy; some are waterproof, others are not.

Product Spotlight

  • The Poet: The Poet features three interchangeable mouths and five pulsation modes, from teasing vibrations to passionate throbbing. The different mouths let you customize the fit and intensity, so you can experiment to find the exact sensation that works for you.

    The Poet

    The Poet