Quick answer

Your Joh toy feels very soft because you likely have the Super Soft (0020) silicone version. This is a legitimate choice that offers extreme flexibility and a gentle feel, but it also means the toy will have less structure than a Soft (0030) version.

Why Super Soft exists

Super Soft silicone is not a defect or a mistake. Strange Bedfellas offers it as a deliberate option for users who prioritize a squishy, forgiving texture over rigidity. A Super Soft toy can be easier to insert for some users because it gives more under pressure, and it may feel more comfortable during longer wear.

Trade-offs of Super Soft vs. Soft

The main trade-off is structural support. A Super Soft toy may flop or bend more when held horizontally, which can make it harder to apply directional pressure. It also tends to have less pronounced texture sensation—fine if you prefer a smoother feel, but a drawback if you rely on ridges or bumps for stimulation.

If your Medium Joh feels too flimsy, the Soft (0030) option is a firmer alternative that still feels pliable but holds its shape better during use.

Diagnosis: Is Super Soft right for you?

  • Symptom: Your Joh toy feels extremely soft, bends easily, and may flop when held by the base.
  • Likely cause: You have the Super Soft (0020) silicone version (product J-596). This is intended behavior, not a flaw. If you wanted more firmness, the Soft (0030) version (J-597) offers a medium ground.
  • Corrective action: No corrective action needed. Super Soft is a valid choice for comfort and easy insertion. If you prefer more structure, consider exchanging or ordering the Soft (0030) version next time. Check the Strange Bedfellas policies page for return or exchange options if you are still within the window.

Product facts

  • Medium Joh -- Super Soft silicone -- J-596: Medium Joh in Super Soft (0020) is described as dark blue, purple, and orange with a total length of 4.75 inches and a widest shaft diameter of 1.75 inches. This is the softest option offered; it feels extremely pliable and will compress significantly under moderate pressure.

    Medium Joh -- Super Soft silicone -- J-596

    Medium Joh -- Super Soft silicone -- J-596

  • Medium Joh -- Soft silicone -- J-597: Medium Joh in Soft (0030) is available in gold and shades of purple, also 4.75 inches total length and 1.75 inches widest shaft diameter. The Soft option still has a gentle give but provides noticeably more structure, making it easier to guide and control during use.

    Medium Joh -- Soft silicone -- J-597

    Medium Joh -- Soft silicone -- J-597