Quick answer

For most beginners, an adjustable strap-on harness with a silicone dildo is the safest, most comfortable choice. Start with a kit that includes both so you know they fit together.

Why adjustability matters more than price

A harness that doesn't fit well will slip, shift, or pinch—ruining the experience. Look for fully adjustable straps that can be tailored to your hip and thigh measurements. A universal fit (like one that accommodates up to 59 inches) gives you room to adjust for comfort and security.

Cheaper harnesses often use stiff materials or limited adjustment points. Spending a little more on a machine-washable, adjustable harness pays off in comfort and durability.

Silicone dildos: the beginner-friendly material

Silicone is non-porous, easy to clean, and body-safe. For beginners, a silicone dildo with a suction cup adds versatility—you can use it hands-free on a wall or floor, not just in the harness. A kit that includes a silicone dildo ensures compatibility and saves you from guesswork.

Avoid jelly or PVC toys if you can; they can be harder to clean and may not be body-safe. Stick with silicone for peace of mind.

The trade-off: kits vs. buying separately

Buying a strap-on kit is convenient: the harness and dildo are designed to work together, and you don't have to worry about ring size or fit. The downside is less customization—you might want a different dildo later, but most kits accept additional O-rings.

If you already own a dildo, a standalone harness with multiple O-rings gives you flexibility. But for a first purchase, a kit reduces complexity and cost.

Decision rules for your first strap-on

  • Fit first: Measure your hips and thighs, then choose a harness with adjustable straps that cover your size range. A universal fit (up to 59 inches) is a safe bet. If the harness doesn't adjust in both hip and leg straps, skip it.
  • Material check: Pick a silicone dildo—it's body-safe and easy to clean. Avoid jelly or PVC. Check the label for '100% silicone' before buying.
  • Kit vs. standalone: If you're new, choose a kit that includes a harness and dildo. If you already own a compatible dildo, a harness with multiple O-rings offers flexibility. A kit is simpler; a standalone is more customizable once you know your preferences.
  • Cleaning and care: Look for a machine-washable harness and a dildo you can wash with soap and water or a toy cleaner. If the harness isn't easy to clean, it will become a hassle.

Product facts

  • Loving Joy 6" Silicone Strap On Kit: The Loving Joy 6" Silicone Strap On Kit includes a fully adjustable harness (fits up to 150cm/59") and a 6" silicone dildo with a strong suction cup. This kit gives beginners a secure, adjustable fit and a versatile dildo for hands-free play, so you don't have to guess about compatibility.

    Loving Joy 6" Silicone Strap On Kit

    Loving Joy 6" Silicone Strap On Kit

  • Loving Joy 6" Silicone Strap On Kit: The harness is machine-washable and features a bullet pocket and two O-rings for versatile play. Easy cleaning and the option to add a bullet vibrator (sold separately) make this kit a practical, flexible starter choice.

Who this guide is for

Best for

  • First-time strap-on users who want a simple, secure setup
  • People who value easy cleaning and body-safe materials

Not for

  • Experienced users who already own a dildo and need a specific harness size
  • Those seeking a harness for very large or very small body sizes beyond standard adjustability