Quick Answer
A double ended dildo can be used solo for deeper g-spot or prostate play, or with a partner for simultaneous stimulation. Start with plenty of lube, choose a length and flexibility that match your comfort, and communicate openly to find positions that work for both bodies.
Solo vs. Partner: What Changes
Using a double dildo alone gives you more control over angle and depth, but the extra length can make it unwieldy if you don't brace it. With a partner, the toy acts as a flexible connector—you both need to stay coordinated to avoid discomfort. The same toy can work for both scenarios, but your prep and positions will differ.
Length and Flexibility Matter
Longer double dildos (12–18 inches) allow more distance between partners or deeper solo reach, but they can be harder to stabilize. Shorter models stay more manageable for beginners. Flexibility is key: a bendy toy like the Crystal Jellies 12 Inch Double Dildo in Teal adjusts to body angles easily, while a firmer one holds its shape for targeted pressure.
Step-by-Step Guide to Using a Double Dildo
- 1. Choose Your Starting Position: For solo use, lie on your back or side and hold the toy by one end, inserting the other. For partner play, face each other in missionary or spooning—both allow eye contact and easy adjustment. Avoid sitting upright at first; gravity can pull the toy out of alignment. A common mistake is starting in a position where you can't adjust the toy easily. Stay low to the bed or floor until you find a comfortable rhythm.
- 2. Lube Generously: Apply a thick, water-based lubricant to both ends and the middle shaft. Double dildos need more lube than single toys because the longer surface creates more friction. Reapply when you feel any drag. Silicone lube can be used with jelly toys but may degrade PVC blends—check your toy's material. A water-based lube is safest for most double dildos.
- 3. Control Depth with Your Hands: Grip the toy at the midpoint (or closer to your body) so you can control how much goes in each side. For solo play, you can also bend the toy into a U-shape to stimulate two areas at once. For partners, each person holds their end initially until you sync up. Letting go completely during partner play often leads to the toy popping out. Keep at least one hand on the shaft until you both feel stable.
- 4. Communicate and Pause: Check in every few minutes: ask about speed, depth, and angle. Double dildos transfer movement directly, so if one person shifts suddenly, the other feels it. Slow down or stop to reposition as needed. Pain or numbness means stop immediately—double dildos can press on the pubic bone if angled wrong. Reposition and try a gentler angle.
- 5. Clean Thoroughly After Use: Wash the entire length with warm water and mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. The long shaft can trap lubricant and fluid in crevices, so dry it fully before storing. Check for tears or rough spots, especially on jelly materials, which can harbor bacteria. Skip antibacterial soap—it can damage porous materials. Stick to toy cleaner or gentle hand soap.
Products That Help
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Crystal Jellies 12 Inch Double Dildo in Teal: Extra flexible double ended dildo with pronounced heads on each end for a fuller feel. The flexibility makes it easier to find comfortable angles during partner play, and the pronounced heads provide more sensation during solo use.
Crystal Jellies 12 Inch Double Dildo in Teal
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Dr. Skin Mini 12 Inch Double Dildo in Vanilla: Combines two realistic tips—one end larger, one slimmer—with a plushy flexible shaft. The different-sized ends let you experiment with varying levels of fullness, which is useful when partners have different preferences.
Dr. Skin Mini 12 Inch Double Dildo in Vanilla
